warnie_666 1,081 Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 .Awful -but cant help something else will come out later. Even in the depths of depression you think he'd consider the implications of his wife or child finding there father/husbands corpse hanging there, and the indelible scars left.Like I mentioned In my earlier post. My one time best friends twin brothers were never the same after seeing their father hanging by the ceiling. Their mom was never the same. They just ostracized themselves. It's a scar. I was too young to understand the sudden change in their behavior cus we were just 10-11 yr olds. If the thought of leaving your 10 yr olds with mental scarS for the rest of their lives doesn't stop u from taking your life then u don't deserve my sympathy.And like the guy above said. Depression is not always the cause of suicide. I know a girl who took her life after her bf dumped her after making several promises. Her mom refused to go out of the house for the next 20 years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fulham Broadway 17,319 Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 Agree entirely....surely he could have gone out of the house to do it??. I also believe that something will come out, the inquest starts tomorrow....Personally, i think he was hit with some sort of bombshell news and made up his mind. I don't buy into the depression thing in this case. I have seen many people with severe depression and suffer breakdowns. The first thing you notice is thier lack of health and dramatic weight loss(they usually look very worried). Speed looked a picture of health and i can't believe a suicidal man could have put on that display on football focus...I also don't think he was a coward, no matter what your mindest, it takes a brave person to hang themselves from a low height(he was found in the garage). He must have suffered before he died, can't see that drop killing him instantly....a coward would have OD on pills and booze...All seemingly fine -until...something about to come out ? Blackmail, about some dark secret ? -its all speculation, and maybe, things will be permanently covered up. It does point to though, some kind of affair that was about to be revealed -(rather than as you say -a creeping dehiblitating depression, that you just cant hide the symptoms).just guessing like. Poor bloke Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
warnie_666 1,081 Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 Lets not turn this thread into another suicide debate. Warnie I think your comments are best kept to yourself. Insensitive.Insensitive is calling others insensitive without knowing what they have been through. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Krypt 241 Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 Not been around much this weekend so wanted to say R.I.P he will be missed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kez 2,727 Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 Insensitive is calling others insensitive without knowing what they have been through.Well I apologise if i offended you in any way, I just don't think this thread should be turned into another one of those debates. Also I don't think we shouldn't speculate about Gary Speed's personal life in anyway until we know the facts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kez 2,727 Posted November 29, 2011 Share Posted November 29, 2011 His wife found his body, they had not argued nor was he depressed which makes the drastic decision of him to take his own life even more baffling. There has to be something much more behind this. I hope his wife & kids find out & they are not left wondering for the rest of their lives. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laylabelle 9,535 Posted November 29, 2011 Share Posted November 29, 2011 Nice tribute/apprication from Leeds fans earlier..his shirt number was 11 during his time there so they sung his name for 11 mins Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LDN Blue 7,903 Posted November 29, 2011 Author Share Posted November 29, 2011 Stamford Bridge singing 'only one Gary Speedie' was good to hear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BluesChick 1,260 Posted November 30, 2011 Share Posted November 30, 2011 So sad to hear, I hope for the sake of his family they find some reason behind his death because they need closure. The rest of world doesn't but his wife and children do, they need a why and they need to know it wasn't them. My thoughts and prayers are with his wife and children, I hope they are able to find the healing and closure they will need in the coming months and most of all I hope the media will leave them alone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ollie 4,400 Posted December 4, 2011 Share Posted December 4, 2011 Ok, i heard about this yesterday when i got home. I was stunned because you would not associate something like this with him, it's completely messed up. I felt really upset. He was on Football focus just the day before, watching that on youtube feels really surreal.I'm with warnie on this tho, i don't wanna start any arguments or any debates but suicide is the most despicable cowardly thing you can do when you have a wife and children. How dare he do this to them, he's ruined the family and their lives forever now, no fucking excuses for suicide. No matter how bad things get, suicide is NEVER the right thing to do. It's a tough world, we are here to deal with every joy and every pressure.I always had great respect for Gary Speed but now i don't know what to think. I can't believe that he really did this to himself and his fans, friends and family. I've never been so shocked at a piece of news ever in my life. Tragic and very, very strange. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
francozola 2,040 Posted December 7, 2011 Share Posted December 7, 2011 Apparently, Duncan Ferguson had an affair with his wife for 13 years and is the father of one of their kids :o Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manpe 10,861 Posted December 7, 2011 Share Posted December 7, 2011 Apparently, Duncan Ferguson had an affair with his wife for 13 years and is the father of one of their kids :ois this pretty much confirmed or just a rumour?E: I'm reading that it's a random twitter rumour, far from being confirmed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
francozola 2,040 Posted December 7, 2011 Share Posted December 7, 2011 All of a sudden you don't feel sorry for his wife anymore... is this pretty much confirmed or just a rumour?yepReally hope this isn't true because it's just so sad. Same thing happened to JT's brother's team-mate who allegedly committed suicide after finding out his wife had been having an affair with Paul Terry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manpe 10,861 Posted December 7, 2011 Share Posted December 7, 2011 yepReally hope this isn't true because it's just so sad. Same thing happened to JT's brother's team-mate who allegedly committed suicide after finding out his wife had been having an affair with Paul TerryI just edited my previous post. I googled a bit and found that it's an unconfirmed twitter rumour... probably the most unreliable source on the internet. Although if it were true, then I could feel the despair of Gary.. imagine your whole life being torn apart in a matter of seconds.. The whole "think about your family" argument becomes void if the family is a lie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
francozola 2,040 Posted December 7, 2011 Share Posted December 7, 2011 I just edited my previous post. I googled a bit and found that it's an unconfirmed twitter rumour... probably the most unreliable source on the internet. Although if it were true, then I could feel the despair of Gary.. imagine your whole life being torn apart in a matter of seconds.. The whole "think about your family" argument becomes void if the family is a lie.Yeh that's why I said "apparently" in the original post lol. Twitter rumours are definitely unreliable. The rumours say that the story is going to be in the papers tomorrow though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ollie 4,400 Posted December 7, 2011 Share Posted December 7, 2011 13 years? With Drunken Duncan? He's the dad of one of the kids? Damn!Anyway i heard a rumour that he was gay and was being blackmailed by some guy or he'll let it out.I'm sure it'll come out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CHOULO19 24,332 Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 The people starting rumors about Gary on twitter are despicable. The man is dead, at least have the decency to leave him alone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laylabelle 9,535 Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 Thing is with the papers..one wiff of a bit of goss and they start reporting like its news...Hopfully they'd have a bit of respect and not report anything...its no ones bussiness...but seeing how things have come out in the past..soon as the deem its been enough time..out it'll all come Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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