That is sad! Well, how long will you have to stay there? China is not that bad (according to my parents), it is a great vibrant place. People just get caught up in the bad propaganda other countries make. If you explain how good it is there, dont you think some family members will get interested in paying you a visit? Can't you try to travel to see your dad by yourself, a week or so? I hope everything ends up more than fine Kerry!