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Thats totally understandable. i dont know your relationship with your family and what not, but its not a bad idea letting someone close to you know about it. of course its down to you to judge who you want to tell or even if you want to tell them, but im sure they will udnerstand and just be there to support you. even if they dont understand it wont end in a bad way. my partners dad has a pretty old fashion approach to things and just doesnt understand depression. he thinks its just being a bit upset about something. that obviously was annoying to my partner and she just didnt talk to him about it and he didnt try getting too involved as he didnt know much about it. i would advise telling someone close to you though that you can talk to. its always good to have support. with the interview things though, atleast you know you can get to those points, and when you are ready you can do it again and take it even further, thats where i think the support of someone can come in really handy. im going to sleep now, gotta meet with my tutor and get my ass handed to me. cant wait!

amen to that. I saw a show a few weeks ago and the person on it was autistic, and was working in a care home. a person questioned whether he should be working there because he was autistic and advised him to get tested. the resposne was: "If I’m autistic would it change me? Would it kill me? Would it make me a different person?" to which the reply was No. so he replied with "well leave it then" perfect. there are just some features and states that are just anatomoical. autisim, ADHD... you cant fix em, and they do no physical harm so just leave it. the only time i think it is acceptable to intervene with a mental illness is when it does cause negative harm, but otherwise just leave it and get on with it. its a trait.

you've got the right ideas. its good that you know what it is you need you've just got to get it. best way to meet someone is a job. i know right now you arent up for finding a job, you know you need to, but what motivation is there? just ask yourself, what good will i get from a job? in that answer, one of the points amongst otehrs will be you are increasing your chances of finding someone you can fool around with. obviously you know better than anyone asking a question and listing a pro isnt going to make you jump out your chair and go look for a job, but its good to at least think about it. you ever do things like mental rehersal? im just sharing this with you out of interest, its quite a personal thing to me as well, but seeing as everyones opening up, why the hell not: i act out future scenarios in my head before i sleep and imagine them going exactly how id want them. or sometimes just to the bare minumm id want the go. for example, tomorrow ive got a meeting with my tutor, i sent her my first draft of my dissertation, i wrote it in 1 hour, some students have spent weeks on it, mine was absolute dog shite. i just read the feedback she sent me and she SLAMMED it. ive got to meet her tomorrow and i know shes goign to be thinking im a fucking retard. so, in my head, i imagine going in, explaining to her casually that ive doen a poor job, i know that, she knows that. i appreciate her feedback, ask her a few questions about my work, get her smiling and the whole atmosphere turns from nasty to nice. - even though realistically i know its not going to go that well, i have no managed to convince myself it will go alright, even though i know it wont.... but tis settled my nerves. hard to explain... ok that may not have been a good example but you kind of catch my drift. its a pretty stupid thing i feel but it can help supress any negative feelings etc. so in relevance to you, when you are laying in bed tonight, just think about searching for a few jobs, applying for a few. getting a phone call back or whatever saying they want you to come on. going to that interview and just nailing. like you have wowed the person interviewing you and you are a massive hit. then starting that job, doing it well and being confident and chatting to people, making friends and building soem strong relationships. you may lay there for 3 hours thinking about that stuff. i do sometimes. im moving away to a big city with my gf, id have finished education and be looking for a real job, getting some real experience. ive been going through it in my head for weeks now and before it, i was a bit anxious about moving, now i cant wait. dunno if it helps but its something i do. im just riffing.

I like to think everyone has depression to a certain extent, and i think those that are considered not sufferers are masters of distraction, and mastered it from a younger age. when i was young, about 10 or 11, my father said to me "if you aren't happy, you are living life wrong" so i always made sure i was happy. when something bad or sad happened id use a distraction to avoid me thinking about it. I would usually think about the bad thigns just before i went to sleep, id just lay there and go through it all in my end and solve it all there. This does have its downsides though... whenever im in an arguement with my family or my partner i tend to crack jokes. which are totally irrelelvant. im the kind of person that, once an arguement is brought up, i want to forget about it, go home, think about it, then solve it the following day. but unfortunately the pople i argue with want it sorted there and then, so im there just cracking jokes and it makes me come across like i dont care. in terms of distractions, things like video games, going on my computer, although not amazingly ideal, they were great. id jsut go to my room and play some fifa and id feel fine. on reflection, what ive jsut described there cna be seen more as a preventative method. if you dont get those distractions as a child, then you are gradually going to become more and more sad if you dwell on things, and once you become an adult i guess you are more prone to depression.

not to interfere with this or anything, but by simply posting in this thread you are making a step. would you not agree? i think you deserve to credit yourself a little more than you seem to do. Just by being here it shows you are actively seeking out some help and advice. your response to my earlier post was good and interactive and you identified and showed that you knew the pattern you were in. its only a matter of time before you take other steps.

just a thought on integrating youth players to the first team: it is hard at a club like ours, especially at this time. for teams comfortable in mid table, they have nothign to really risk by playing some youth. in the position we are where we are fighting for a champions league spot, its not really suitable for us to be taking a gamble. thats why i personally think loaning players out is improtant for clubs at our level. Lukaku an example. last season with us, we all knew he was frustrated, send him out on loan, he is loving it, and we as fans of chelsea are loving seeing the potential he has. Unless a player gets a chance, and manages to put in a really good performance, like Bertrand did, who to be fair amy have only got the chance due to the lack of players in that position, then players arent going to get much game time with the first teamm Piazon got some time in the capital one cup before he was sent out on loan and thats about it. we see Ake appear on the bench and making an appearance in the europa league, but their time is limited. thats why loands are important for these players, its not ideal, but its the best we can do until we dont have anything to fight for. so i dont really think its fair to say that our academy players dont get a chance, its just not worth the gamble.

just saw this on my news feed. cant wait to get in the gym now http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=257726617697664&set=vb.552479714780967&type=2&theater

I agree with a lot of what you say to a certain extent. But If all you want to do is to get bigger muscles, then isolation workouts work a charm. Me, personally, before ive started this little bulk up period, the resistance stuff i did was specific to my sport to help me improve performance. Which i can see why a dead lift can imrpove performance if your everyday life includes picking shit off a floor (which is actually what i do as a part time job ) I dont know whether people see the dead lift as a good exercise because you work lots of muscles, and again, unless its being used as a kidn of shortcut, i dont see why you dont go and work the muscles seperately. as said before, the chemical spikes that would happen all over the body are the only real benefit i see. I dont think you did sprints right if you noticed no difference, espeically in your hmstrings. and you can add progressive resitance to a sprint exercise with sledges/parachutes/hills. if you did it competatively, your training regime must have had some flaws, coach to blame for that. And with shrugs, i think its one of the most commonly poorly exectuted exercises ever. If theres one thing id say to anyone starting to build a bit of muscle, its learn the muscular anatomy of the human body. find out where the major muscles you want to work are, their origins and where they insert. i see people hold some dumbells right by their side and shrug.... wtf is that shit?! the traps, the upper part of the traps, has an origin at the back of the head and top of the spinal column, and inserts on the outer part of your clavicle. to work them properly you need to be holding your weights away from your body. something as simple as that improves a workout. know the anatomy and it makes things so much better. I look forward to doing deadlifts and i better be seeing some god damn benefits or ill be straight over on your bb forums to moan my ass off. Question: when i start them, should I be doing it on a leg day? or is it quite an exhaustive thing that you dont really wanna be doing too many thigns before you whack out a deadlift. i assume, despite the amount of muscles it works, its one of htel ast thigns you wanna do because of the huge increase in hormones you get. or is something you need to do first? what kind of sets and reps should you be looking to do? still stick with the classic hypertrophy plan of 3 sets of 8-10? or is it more of an exercise you dont go for hypertrophy on? EDIT: another Q, if i do dead lifts tomorrow, how much does it take out of you? I want to paly football in the evening, but if its gonna drain me big time ill avoid it. I think i might just practice technique tomorrow so i shouldnt really do any damage then.

And thats exactly why i personally feel mental health research needs some huge funding. its only a matter of time before it does, but i dont know why its taking so long. the researchers that are out there trying to to help are making really slow progress. I think they have all settled on agreeing its an intervention that has to not only last short term, but becomes part of a lifestyle to then break the cycle and to maintain it for the future. but how do you do that. yes you can find some subjects, force them in to doing things like exercise, but like you said, as soon as the researchers go away, even if the subjects did find some benefit (which they usual do) its only a matter of time before they relapse. The latest stuff looks to alter peoples behaviours in the hope that it then encourages and provokes them to do things like socialising or doing sport without being told to. kind of like the film inception, just not as kick ass. but thats not easy... when you cant open up to close ones or have the courage to visit an advisor, i cant imagine how that must feel and i hope htat anyone in that situation just has the good fortune to be able to build up that courage and let someone know. My partner didnt tell me, i just noticed it. at first i didnt take any notice, didnt really think anythign of it, then there were periods (normally winter when the sun fucks off) where it was really bad, then it became continusously bad. Thats when i thought i should try and encourage her to see a doctor. the problem is, i persoanlly think, especially with mild - moderate depression, it can be made a lot worse by being clinically labelled as depressed. it then becomes a kind, and not to sound too harsh but i dont know how else to put it, but becomes an excuse that you can ride off. im upset because im depressed, so im gonna stay in and watch TV all day, because im depressed. and as soon as she saw the doctor and was told she was depressed, it got instantly worse for about 2 months, it was really bad. then she slowly started becoming better, and of recent weeks shes been back to normal. I think anti depressants work in a way thats just reduces the negative feelings of depression, in the hope that you then feel ok enough to be able to break the cycle yourself. whereas prescribed exercise/social meetings are used to literally break the cycle till it is no longer a cycle, but relapses happen all the time. Its a horrible thing and i think its something that isnt going to be properly sorted for a long time. maybe not even in our life times. There is no point in giving up though. anyone who feels down and hopeless and cant be bothered to get back up and try again just needs that bit of support and encouragement. its enough to start by just identifying all the thigns nad behaviours you do that make you feel bad. so when you dont do something, or when you go out drinking, you dont even have to write them down, if in your head you can identify and seperate the bad behaviours and the good behaviours, you can at least try and avoid them. that self help thing i posted in an earlier post has lots of information and simple things you can do. and all you have to do is read so to anyone feeling down, give it a read.

I still dont get it though. like ive heard some guys say they dead lift because it helps them get bigger traps.... why not just do shrugs? you dont do chest press/sholder press to work your triceps? whys it any different? Im not saying its a bad exercise or it shouldnt be done, i just think people misunderstand its benefits. I dont have very much knowledge on it yet, but the only educated guess i can make at its benefits is that it does work a lot of muscles over the entire body and therefore causes really sharp spikes in hormones related to protein synthesis. but then why not go do sprints? when i was going through a sprint routine i had massive gains on my shoulders and back as well as my legs, and i guess its a similar thing. like i said, im not saying its a bad exercise at all, and i plan to start doing them, im just confused on what it does exactly. i look forward to doing them though, its always nice to learn a new thing.

Not really much i can say with that information. it could be 1 of 100 things and to be honest, going to see a specialist is really the best way if you really want to get it sorted. if its tendon damage its a case of a lot of rest and some soft stretching. if its muscular, it depends what it is and may be down to poor technique that youve continued over a long period of time which can put some strain on tendons as well. it could be to do with your back arch and there for may be casuing some stress on some ligaments. im going to start doing dead lifts very soon and thats the thing that concerns me. dead lifts are not an essential thing to do. people seem to like them and im not really sure why. the reason im going to do them is i went strengthen and loosen my upper hamstring whilst strengthening my back. i could easily just do this with some simple lower back exercises and some leg stuff, but everyone seems to do dead lifts so ill give it ago. but you dont need to do them, and it sound like you need to allow some time to let what ever you've damaged recover. If you really dont want to see a physio i suggest googling "lower back pain from dead lift" you will eventually find lots of hints and tips from people who suffer from similar pains that may help you. also, if you can pin point what the exact problem is, there are a lot of youtube videos of stretches and exercises to help rehabilitate specific injuries. like i said, it could be 1 of 100 things, and if you dont want to see a physio i'd lay of the dead lifts for a while, and have a stumble around the internet to see if you can find any info on your injury.

I literally came in here to moan about exams/CW but looks like we are all on the same wave length. I've got 1 month to write up my 5000 word dissertation, a 4000 word research report, revise for an exam and prepare a presentation. This is a lot, but its perfectly manageable.... if i got down to do it!! Im on the edge of messing up my degree. im averaging at 61 (want a 2:1 which is achieved by getting 60-69) and if i mess up these last few modules thats it ill end up with a useless 2:2 and owuld have wasted 3 years. I seem to not be able to do any work until 1 week within the deadline, this si usually ifne, however, everythign is due in on the same week, so i have to get some done in advance of this deadline but i just can't seem to motivate myself to do it. Im on my laptop now writing all this open with all the documents i need open to get on with my work but i cant be bothered. Im watching the lion king for the third time in 3 days. Scar is a knob. Mufusa should have dealt with his ass right at the start of this film. anyway, any tips to motivate me? i know what i have to do. i have to be in a decent enviornment with no distractions and get on with it. but i dont want to do that. Ive been setting myself little deadlines like "have this section done by the end of hte day" and i find myself watching the lion king. again. "look Simba, everything the light touches is our Kingdom" - thats where im at now

Unlike United, we need to win this game. Man U will put out a weak team Vs Sunderland, hell, they'll even take a draw from that game, they've already won the league. so we are going to have to paly some key players here. Mata has had a big enough rest, so seeing him play 60 minutes is fine. Stick Bertrand at LB. Moses on for Hazard. and i dont care which striekr we start. In my eyes Torres is the one in form at the moment. He's looking a lot better in his last couple of games and is contributing more than Ba. having said that, they are both pretty bad, so i dont care which striker plays on which days, but id be picking Torres as the better of the two at the moment. this is a must win. The game Vs United is a game we'd like to win, but not a must win. we need champions league football next season to keep Jose happy, and i think Man city are going to take the FA cup this season so we need that top 4 finish in the league.

depends on lots of things, dislocations can do lots of damage to surround ligaments, but there are times where there is no damage done. depends how long ago it was done, and if it gives you any discomfort when you do other types of activities. how did you manage to dislocate your hip anyway? thats crazy! only one way to find out if it will play up though... squat with more weight. just gradually increase it. if you do feel any discomfort or pain etc then stop.

What kind of a pain (try describe it and the locations you feel it)? How often fo you perform your dead lifts and squats? whats your sets and reps and rest between sets? how many days rest do you have between? how long have you had the pain? Is it any worse on one side than the other? Do you do many sit ups.core work outs? Do you have any exsisting back/posture problems? - even ones that arent serious, for example, i have a fairly large arch in my lower back, so it makes my belly stick out a bit. not a clinical thing, just my anatomy, but it can cause me some problems, mainly during long distance running. you answer those as clear as possible and i should be able to give you a pretty good response. though i can tell you now, it will probably be: "i dunno lol... see a physio"

HAHHAHA my bad! Im like htat with games too. but today we just messed around. Hell, i used to play COD or fifa round my mates house and kept headbutting his cupboard out of frustration. huge dent in it. When i play football manager, many times ive punched my bedside table when ive conceeded a late goal in the champions league finals. many a time. Im not even aggressive! fucking video games. as for teas, im always with the usual tea bag. recently ive been seeing those flavoured ones (twinings do them) and they do a pomegramate and blood orange one that smells great! no idea how it tastes. recently read a bit of research on the affects of green tea, lots of benefits for a sedentry or athletic person. no idea how it tastes though. christ im helpful

video games. seriusly. i rearely play them, and today ive had a chill out day. played 5 a side this morning, got home, showered, ate, just played COD MW2 for 2 hours with my mates. im chilled to fuck! now ive gotta go do a 6 hour shift in a supermarket. Cup of tea is the greatest though.

the royal family are lizards - illuminati consiparcies do my tits in. and the people who hate the system do my tits in. even if these people are running the world, its just as well they are because if we were all free like everyone who hates the system seems to want, we'd be fucked. we cant look after ourselves, it would only be a matter of time before another systme was put in place to give us order. i hate people who whine. theres only one man with the answers to evolution and the illuminati... Karl Pilkington.

HAHA! to be honest, its a lot of old people that play it where i go. and asians. But i really like badminton. my gf wanted to get in to it so we started palying, and she was awful, she'd leave in tears sometimes. but now shes half decent and she has me all over the court and i love it so i enjoy playing badminton. its a good game. we play every now and then together but im hoping to get her to play once a week with me.

day 2 completed. feeling heavy. everything hurts. even my legs are still a bit sore from thursday football, should be ok by tomorrow when i have 5 a side though. If i put in the effort i put in over the past 2 days in to every session and i keep it up im confident of seeing some pretty good results. I'll be weighing my self every 2 weeks so i'll be sure to add it on to here. gonna use this place as my little diary so sorry about that my only concern is my diet. last time i did this i just ate so much cheese! im going to be buying low fat cheese though this time around so that wont get me! another concern is that i now have to go to work and lift stuff around for a few hours... good cool down session though i'd say

HAHA i wish. I have been lifting for a couple of years. all beit not a main focus on improving weight, but ive a good technique, but now i am trying to gain a few kilos. only on day 2 though at the moment. Ill show you my 2 week plan at the moment: Friday: Back + Biceps + Abs Saturday (TODAY!): Chest + Shoulders + Triceps Sunday: Football/rest Monday: Legs Tuesday: back, biceps and abs Wednesday: chest shoulders and triceps Thursday: Football / rest you've already seen my chest/shoulder/tri routine. my back/bis/abs routine (i did it yesterday) was: warm up on rowing machine seated lat pull down 1x8 narrow grip 77kg 2x8 wide grip 70kg 3x10 50kg... not sure what its called, its a machine you sit on it, you reach out infront grab the bars, and you pull it back, like a reverse pec fly. so your arms stay straight.... 2x10 30kg dumbell bent over row 3x10 25kgs shrugs 2x10 15kg hammer curls 1x10 eccentric biceps. abs: ive described my routine a while ago. but im destroyed today from it! think i did added weight straight sit ups. the n8 left curl 8 right curl and 8 straight curl weighted sit ups. then 5 bouncing sit ups. then 5 where im at abotu 45 degrees, then a throw a medicine behind my head and try nad resist the pull. then i did 10 controlled pikes. Football on a sunday is an hour (someitmes a bit more) of 5 - a side. Football on thursday is a 40 minute 6 a side match. then normally hang aorund for another hour for a casual kick around. My leg workout at the moment is not what a wnat it as, but i usally do my legs after a football session so im not able to do things like a specific hamstring thing as im usually spent. at the moment i do: Quad kicks: 3x10 90-100kg hip adductors 3 x 10 110kg (MAXED OUT! resistance machine with about 4 turns in it... piss easy) 3x10 drop squat jump with 15kg dumbell in each hand. I plan on doing that routine for about 2 weeks before i mix it up and add some more weights as well as adding a few sessions in so im working ou twice a day as well as adding a few fat burn sessions in. after 2 weeks ill be looking to add in some dead lifts to help with my back and hamstrings. any tips or advice would be appreciated as i havent gone to add muscle for a while. I might add, the days ill be working out twice a day will either be something like a morning session of a big weights work out. then in the evening itl be a fat burn thing/badminton with the missus or another weight session on a smaller muscle group such as the fore arms or jsut a straight out lower back and ab workout. it wont be anything hardcore.

when i do my pull downs i use a like a flat bar most of the time. if i use a rope i have to drop the weight. I weigh 64kgs, and i bench on a smith machine, so dont get too excited! I think when you use the rope handles youre hands are more narrow, so youre arm isnt relly straight which is why it might be harder. when i use a flat bar everythign is inline, i personally feel it works my tris way better. the ropes make you use your fore arms a lot more, and you arent in line so youre triceps arent utilised properly - so i think its harder becuase you are using less of your tricep.

you really need a routine. at the start its more about getting used to it. you'll naturally understand the mechanics of an ache and when you should and shouldnt be working out. anything you do do, just make sure you are doign it right. even if you start with just some push ups, sit ups and pull ups. if you do join a gym then you will be more likely to become dedicated, but theres no reasons why you cant exercise at home. if you start jogging etc its all good. The internet is full of wonderful hints and tips. just dont believe everything you read. you wont get buff in 4 weeks if you take some awesome pills...